Have your arms and legs open
If you have your arms and legs crossed, it might look as a defensive or guarded position. So keep them open.
Make eye contact without staring
Making eye-contact with all the people you are talking to will create a good connection and you will notice if they are listening to you or not. But be careful, eye-contact is different from staring at people. They might feel uncomfortable if you keep too much time making eye-contact. On the contrary, if you don’t do eye-contact at all might make you look insecure. This is a practice that it might make you feel scary but as soon as you keep practicing it you will get used to it.
Take up some space
- While you are sitting or standing, place your legs a little bit apart taking up some space. This will be seen by others as self-confidence.
Relax your shoulders
If you feel tense, one of the first body parts that will show this tension is your shoulders. Unconsciously, you will move them up and forward. Breath, shake and move your shoulders in order to loosen them up. Just relax.
Nod if you agree
While you are talking with someone, nod your head every once in a while. The person you are talking with will know you are listening to them and you agree with what they are saying. Just don´t overdo it.
Sit up straight, don’t slump over
Sit up relaxed with your back straight. Always avoid tension in any part of your body.
Lean toward and lean back
Leaning toward is a practical and very efficient way to show others that you are interested in what they are saying. Do not exaggerate otherwise you might look desperate for approval. On the other hand, leaning back shows other you are confident with yourself. But be careful to not seem arrogant and distant by leaning back too much.
Laugh and smile
If someone says something funny while you are talking to him just smile and laugh a little bit. On the contrary, if you are the one that is saying something funny, don’t be the first one to laugh because you might seem nervous. If you are introduced to someone, give him a short smile. People are more likely to listen to you if you are a positive person.
Avoid touching your face
This can distract the people you are talking with. Moreover, it can make you look nervous.
Maintain your head up
Keep your head up and your eyes towards the person you are talking with. If you look to the ground, you might look insecure.
This applies to many situations such as walking slower. You would like to seem relaxed, calm and confident.
Twiddling thumbs, drumming fingers, shaking your legs are some of the things people do while talking. This only shows to others that you are nervous so slow down. Focus on your movements so you seem relaxed.
Express yourself with your hands
Use your hands while you are talking with someone. Express yourself by using them. They can help you describe what you are talking about. Use it in a proper way, showing some control, otherwise using your hands too much can distract others.
Place your drink in a lower position
If you are holding a drink while speaking to others, locate it below your chest and heart. A good position will be beside your leg. Having the drink in front of your heart might make you seem distant and guarded.
Be aware of where your spine ends
The spine ends in the back of the head, so it is highly recommended to keep up the spine straight aligned throughout your body. A good posture includes both spine and neck. Otherwise, you could be adapting the Montgomery Burns-pose, craning the neck forward.
Respect the personal space
Most people don’t like close-talkers. Don’t stand too close so you don’t invade the personal space.
It is recommended to mirror other’s body language. For instance, if the other person is holding her thighs, leaning forward or doing something else, you should copy theses movements but not instantly. This will create a connection between the person you are talking with and you. But be careful to no mirror every change in body language. It will look weird.
Have a good attitude
Everything you are feeling while having a conversation will be expressed by your body language. So keep a positive, relaxed and open attitude.